Kiddos.....

Call me weird, protective, spoiled, whatever.  I HATE leaving my kids.  It doesn't matter if it's for a quick trip up town to get something, to going away for a couple of days.  I know I have a different perspective on parenting and child-rearing than many people do, but it works for me, and our family.  The best part is my husband agrees and feels the same about leaving our kids behind......WE DON'T do it.  Our belief is very much that we wanted these children so we're taking them with us, and keeping them with us as long as we're "cool" enough to do so in their eyes.  I cherish every moment with my girls and will with any other children we're blessed to have.  Don't get me wrong that Derek and I enjoy time together alone, but we're secure enough in ourselves and our relationship with each other that we know there will be tons of time to do things together as we get older, but the time that our babies are little and growing will not last.  Now don't sit there saying Roshelle you're crazy and judging people based on their needs.  I'm not.  I'm just voicing my opinion and my belief.  If your situation makes it so you need to leave your kids, or you enjoy leaving them, so be it, but it's not our parenting style and never will be.  Derek and I can honestly say that we feel our kids are happier and all around more independent because we're with them.  They have the security of knowing that Mommy  and Daddy Love them, and will be there no matter when.  Day, middle of the night.  This thought process I believe allows them to "just be kids" and enjoy living.  They don't have fears at all that we won't be there.  Some people ask me don't they drive you crazy?  My answer to that is No.  Sure we have moments, if I'm having a bad day, or they are, but 98% of the time they make me laugh, and don't drive me crazy at all.  This I honestly feel goes along with the fact that the day I became a mom, I learned and knew exactly what God's plan and purpose was for me.  That is to be the best wife, and mom I can be.  I truly value my marriage and strive to take care of my husband.  I also do everything I can to be a great mommy for my girls.  From the day I had Mallory I said that if I'm not succeeding at being a good wife and mommy, then something has to give so that I can focus on being better at it.  It's my job (but one that I take seriously, and light-hearted)  I love taking care of my family more than anything and when I had my kids my life became complete.  I'm the luckiest girl in the world.  I not only married my Best Friend and confidant, but together we have created two gorgeous girls and a life we both love.